While divorce and parental separation can be challenging for children and adolescents, it need not interfere with their overall health and well-being. With their parents' help and understanding, most children navigate their way through the changes in their family and adjust to their new circumstances.
The good news is the choices you make as parents and co-parents now and down the road related to co-parenting and the creation of a healthy family evironment make a significant difference. The research clearly shows that parents who learn to model a postive, business like co-parenting relationship for their children create a family culture in which children thrive.
One take home message we wish to share with you today is that your children will look to you to show them how to cope with the changes their family faces. There are two things you can begin doing right now to protect your children from the possible negative effects of divorce: 1) Learn to work together with you co-parent even as you live apart and 2) Minimize any disruptions in your relationship with your child.
We appreciate your willingness to take the time and participate in this class. We hope the information we provide gives you some food for thought when it comes to building a roadmap for a hopeful future.
Kirk L. Thoreson, Psy.D.
“. . . there is hope for children. Divorcing parents cannot spare their children the pain of divorce, despite their sometimes fervent desire to do so. And perhaps they shouldn’t try. Children are entitled to their own feelings; children need to grieve. But even after divorce, parents can – in my view must – work hard to be good parents and co-parents. Over time, after divorce, good parents and co-parents can promote their children’s resilience and do much to ease their pain. Rather than forever being “children of divorce,” hardworking divorced parents and co-parents can help their kids to be, well, just kids.”
- Rober Emery
Family Court Review